Tuesday, April 15, 2008

Just a Thought

I may regret writing this blog entry at a later point in time. For now though I just feel the need to post it. I was looking for information in books and online about domestic violence for a piece I am working on and I found something very familiar about the signs of domestic violence.

You are probably wondering why I am talking about domestic violence on a Taylor Hicks blog. Well some of the descriptions describe what American Idol has done to Taylor Hicks and/or his fans by the way they constantly say America got it wrong when Taylor won instead of their chosen golden boy. So many things they have said and done fit the domestic violence descriptions. Below are some of the descriptions I found that I think relate.

Dominance — Abusive individuals need to feel in charge of the relationship. They will make decisions for you and the family, (we are Taylor Hicks supporters and they think they can make our decisions on what we should or shouldn’t support) tell you what to do, and expect you to obey without question. (we know Taylor didn’t obey without question and AI does not like that) Your abuser may treat you like a servant, child, or even as his possession. (AI does seem to have a contract that treats the Idols as their possessions)

Humiliation — An abuser will do everything he can to make you feel bad about yourself, or defective in some way. (Saying America got it wrong with choosing Taylor Hicks is saying they do not think he was good enough which means defective and I am sure that can’t make Taylor feel good) Insults, name-calling, shaming, and public put-downs are all weapons of abuse designed to erode your self-esteem and make you feel powerless. (If they think they can make Taylor feel powerless maybe they think eh will go away. We all know Taylor will prove them wrong)

Intimidation — Your abuser may use a variety of intimation tactics designed to scare you into submission. Such tactics include making threatening looks or gestures, The clear message is that if you don't obey, there will be consequences. (The consequences in this case.. ruin career or decrease the momentum)

Denial and blame — Your abuser may minimize the abuse or deny that it occurred. He will commonly shift the responsibility onto you: Somehow, his abuse is your fault. ( They would like people to believe Taylor not selling millions and millions of CDS is because America got it wrong and Taylor isn’t good enough.)

I usually try and stay only posting the positive news and information about Taylor but I decided this time I would post a little of what I truly think and feel. I do not even watch AI anymore because I do not like the way they treated Taylor and his fans. I am one of those fans and I do not like someone telling me I got it wrong when I choose what I like.

Obviously millions like and admire Taylor Hicks and know he has the talent and determination to pull through no matter what AI might want people to believe. If America got it wrong then maybe AI should just cancel the show right now because America will probably get it wrong again. Why on earth would they want to take the chance for America to think they know what they like again just to discover we aren’t capable of knowing what we like?

Ok that’s my vent for the day.


Soul Reporter said...

I hate when I hear any of them say that "America got it wrong!" I can dial a phone and I knew exactly who I was voting for. That makes no sense that we got it wrong. The one I wanted to win WON!!

Cindy Wright said...

I so agree it isn't like we blindly voting not knowing who we wanted to win. We voted for who was the best and whether AI likes it or not the best was Taylor Hicks

henry8 said...

AI likes to say that we voted for him just because we liked him. Kind of like you might vote for your kid even tho he was the worst one there. Well, sorry, first I probably wouldn't vote for my kid if he were not the best or close to it and second, I didn't know Taylor, I loved his voice and the excitement his performances brought to the show. Something that has been missing every since. And you are right , many things they do are exactly like the things an abuser does to keep their victim under control. Thats what its all about--Control.